"does that have anything to do with my inability to connect using i.p address thats in the set up box on the host computer ?"
For direct connection you'll need to get your host machine's local ip (if it's connected to a router) and ensure port forwarding is setup on the router to allow the host machines port (default is 5650) is forwarded to your host machines local ip
Is there a way where you can you see your FPS during a connection? Also, is it capped at the dropdowns 25 or if you have it on "High" cpu usage will that get you better than 25? I'm using it with a work machine and trying to get it as responsive as possible.
Optimizations already completed: 1. Using direct connection 2. Both PC's are powerful (ram, cpu, graphics) 3. Both PC's are optimized and up-to-date on software and all drivers 3. Both are on very good (200MB+) internet connections