thank you for pointing out the remote server option. I installed it and have tried using it.
It may only be 10% better than going through the default server option.
I continue to get timeouts, cursor disappears, characters get lost. etc etc.
All machines are up to date, lots of memory etc., and high bandwidth connections.
what could be the problem?
If this continues, then it's not useable - but maybe something is not configured correctly.